Less than a week before Kris Humphries proposed to Kim Kardashian, I wrote a post celebrating my grandparents’ 70th wedding anniversary. Earlier this week the news broke that Kim & Kris could barely make it 70 days with each other. Now, I realize that 70 years is an anomaly these days – that was kind of the point of that earlier post. But 70 days? Something is wrong. Here are The Top 5: Things I Learned From Kim Kardashian’s 72 Day Marriage:
1. Rushing in to marriage wasn’t the problem. Rushing out was.
By my calculations, Kim spent about 8 weeks and at least 10 million dollars planning her wedding. That is an average cost of $1.25M / week “rushing in.” Given the average cost of marriage counseling if K&K had gone to one counseling session a week for their entire marriage, they would have dished out a whopping $125 / week trying to make the thing work. I made my thoughts on fighting for relationship clear on this post.
2. Really? Irreconcilable differences? Kim, I do not think that means what you think it means.
You dated for 5 months. You were engaged for 2.5 months. You were married for almost 3. That does not even equal one year. Most people who have cancer fight for twice that long. Very few of them throw in the towel citing “irreconcilable diseases.” It took me longer than than to potty train my son. If I quit on that after 72 days, I’d have an 8-year-old pooping on my living room floor right now. Irreconcilable implies never. That is a long time. Longer than 72 days, fo’ sho’.
3. Rob Delaney could be my new hero.
The comedian has reportedly filed a law suit against Kardashian, et al, for perpetrating this hoax of a marriage. Seeking the 18 million dollars Kim made off of her own wedding, Delaney wants to monetarily encourage them to work it out. I would love for this to be real, and I would love for him to win that suit.
…They renewed their vows on ‘Ellen’ at day 60! What happened in those 12 days? It must have been bad. I will say, as someone who is married, that you are going to go through periods where you hate your spouse for 12 days — longer. That’s like a blip, and then you recover, and you figure it out together and figure out what the problem was and you grow, and these things that seem insurmountable and awful, you realize they made you stronger.” -Rob Delaney
4. Kim’s extravagant wedding (the cost of which could have built over 100 deep core wells in third world countries, thus bringing a constant and reliable source of clean water to millions of people who will most likely die otherwise) is simply a shocking and public reminder of how narcissistic our culture is.
We are obsessed with self, and this is often seen most clearly when weddings are on the horizon. My boss/pastor lamented just last week about how couples he councils have immense concern over the after-party, and the ceremony itself is little more than an afterthought.
5. People of the Second Chance are going to make me eat my words. I could feel it coming as I typed #4. America, myself included, is outraged at Kim and her treatment of the sacred institution of marriage. But as also seen in #4, Kim is not so much on trial here as we all are. Mark my words, POTSC will have Kim’s face on a Never Beyond poster challenging all of us to find the grace in this.
