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When The Viral Man Falls

By now, we all know about Invisible Children and their Kony 2012 campaign. If you don’t, you are probably also not reading this blog right now…

As of this moment, word is now spreading – just as virally as the initial video, I’m sure – that IC co-founder and the man behind – or, rather, at the forefront – of the video that is currently teetering just under 80,000,000 views on YouTube was arrested in San Diego on charges of disorderly conduct. You can read more about those happenings here.

This has undoubtedly been a very difficult week for the folks at Invisible Children. A week ago, the organization, which has gone largely unnoticed by mainstream media and the general public for nearly a decade, suddenly – and some would argue ingeniously – thrust themselves onto every screen in the world.

The support for their cause was instantaneous and almost hysterical. The criticism followed immediately in step and was, in most cases, harsh. The stone-throwers came out in full force, aiming at their rationale, their financial history, their organizational structure, their motives, their plan, their past, and even their children. To be sure, some of the criticism that has come in the last week probably has merit; the plan for justice that IC has helped set in motion is most-certainly not perfect; there were likely some short and long-term effects of their campaign that they did not – or could not – prepare for.

Regardless of the concerns surrounding Kony 2012, both valid and irrational, I never once questioned the heart for justice and life that the people of Invisible Children have. And therein, I think, lies the thing that we need to remember most right now: Invisible Children is a bunch of people. They are men and women who have dedicated their entire young adult lives to the cause of freedom and justice for a people who, as the world goes, have no voice.

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The Man in the Mirror

We are halfway through the first month of 2012, and – most likely – New Year’s Resolutions are already falling by the wayside. I have never been one to get too caught up in the New Year’s hype…but its allure is undeniable: look back at all your letdowns from the past year, and tell yourself that next year will be better. It’s a massive pep-talk on a global scale, ushered in by the most awkward celebrity pairings on national television…but celebrities nonetheless. With all the attention and hoopla given to this ritual, it’s hard to enter January 1st feeling too down on yourself.

But the days that follow often have little in common with that one night of celebration. All your resolutions for the new year do little more than point out glaring failures or insecurities in your life. As recently as yesterday, I read as a friend of mine soaked his blog with words of regret, shame, failure, and insecurity. Unfortunately, the weight he was breaking under is far more typical and ubiquitous than we’d all like to think. Chances are, many of you who stumble upon this blog are feeling the same way, to some degree.

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When Grace Comes To Grinches

Of all your acquaintances there is the one

Who always knows just how to spoil the fun

Forever a downer, forever a scrooge

This grumpler can spoil the happiest mood

No party too festive, no holiday’s safe

When this grinch is around he’s bound to make chafe

You wonder, as he takes cheer to the fray

What could have possibly made him this way

Did divorce by his parents leave him struggling for love

Or did childhood bullies kill his soul with their shoves

An alien abduction could have melted his brain

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Occupy This

“We are the 99%.” This is the rallying cry of an international movement that, in theory, claims to be a force of democracy – the many crying out to the few to say that their voices matter. The Occupy Movement has garnered their fair share of the world’s attention over the last few months, and emotions from the public fall all over the map. People all all sides of the issues are angry, frustrated, bored, hateful, defensive, resentful, disgusted, and – perhaps more than anything – confused. What, exactly, are we trying to accomplish here? Who, exactly, are we trying to blame? What does a solution look like?

I have a friend who is on the leading edge of covering the journalist arrests on Wall Street. As someone passionate about free speech, he is saddened by this apparent media suppression.

I have seen the pictures of police pepper-spraying the crowds. There is no way to feel good about what those pictures reveal.

Personally, I am reminded that the fact that I drove to work in a car today places me in the richest 10% of the world’s population. I am reminded that over a billion people in this world live on less than $2 a day. Personally, I want to say, “Occupy That.” But that’s just me. Continue Reading…

Never Beyond Animal Instincts

Joey Bigstuff. You know him. He’s the guy who truly believes he is the best. At everything. He’s a braggart, and he just doesn’t know when to keep his mouth shut. Worse yet, he never seems to listen to you – he just waits for you to take a breath so he can talk about himself a little more. His jokes are obnoxious, his language is crude, and you are certain that if his self-image were scrawled on a canvas, it would look like a Picasso-esque mash-up of Jesus, Shaquille O’Neill, and Matthew McConaughey.

You know her, too: Trampy McFilth. She wears her neediness on her shoulders like one of those old loose fitting 80′s sweaters that are suddenly coming back into style. She throws herself at other people – usually men – just for affirmation. She can be condescending and downright mean to others who could possibly stand between her and a moment of shallow affection. If there was ever any doubt about her motives, the way she dresses – vying for all eyes to fall upon her – certainly closes the case. You smile politely when she’s near, but in your head you very deliberately select one of a handful of four or five letter words to mutter, aimed silently like poison darts from the blow-gun of jealousy and disgust. Continue Reading…

Scandalous Grace for a Scandalous Face

This mug, once associated with leadership, integrity, and success is now associated with scandal, abuse, damage, and selfishness. Joe Paterno, long time coach of the Penn State Nittany Lions football team, is in the middle of a fall from grace the likes of which we have never seen. Tiger Woods comes to mind, but somehow it seems easier to comprehend and forgive a man for sleeping around than it does a man who, at the very least, appears to have allowed the sexual abuse of young boys go unpunished and unaddressed for over a decade.

JoePa has been fired. The sports world had been anticipating Paterno’s retirement for years now. The celebration this man would have received after that final game would have be unprecedented. Instead, the 45 years he spent leading a program and defining a school’s image ended like a shotgun to the face. Tragic, sudden, and final.

As of this writing, Paterno is not being charged with any criminal wrongdoing. Legally, that is. In the court of public opinion, he is as guilty as they come. Continue Reading…

The Grace of God

I know a lot of people who dog on Christianity for various reasons. I used to get bent out of shape about it, but I have come to realize that much of the fear and negativity towards God is a result of how his own people have represented him throughout history. One of my biggest beefs now is not with people who don’t want anything to do with the God of Christianity, but with the Christians who have radically twisted their own beliefs about Him, often for the sake of control and comfort.

Andy Stanley’s new book, The Grace of God, is a refreshing reminder of what much of the American Church has forgotten. The story of God is a story of grace. It is a story of a God who initiated relationship with His people; a God who initiated a plan of redemption despite constant and continual rejection from those very people with whom He made a covenant; a God whose love was displayed through personal sacrifice and intimate relationship. Continue Reading…

Never Beyond: Even Him?

This week, the Never Beyond image – meant to challenge our ideas of radical grace – portrays one of the most hated men in our country’s history: Osama Bin Laden. Where does a conversation about grace even begin for a terrorist? As I thought about Bin Laden, terrorists, and our nation’s response to Muslims – extremist or not – I looked back at my thoughts from the day the news of Bin Laden’s death broke. It was a post to me that spoke of justice, sadness, grace, and victory. I thought it apropos to repost those thoughts as a starting point for this conversation, in light of the Never Beyond challenge. Here is my post from May 2, 2011:

Dead Terrorists and Ruby Slippers

Yesterday was a historic day. My kids watched The Wizard of Oz for the first time.

And President Obama announced that Osama Bin Laden was confirmed dead at the hands of American military personnel.

I will never forget the gleam in my daughter’s eye as Judy Garland sang “Somewhere Over The Rainbow,” nor will I forget those first moments later that night as America received and reacted to the news that the man responsible for the September 11th attacks was shot in the head by a specialized American military unit.

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Never Beyond a Dictator

A man obsessed with controlling his environment, circumstances, and reputation spends his first 13 years of fatherhood in stringent domination of his wife and children. He is abusive mentally, emotionally, and perhaps physically. His wife becomes a shell of the woman who married him; his children grow up never knowing love, acceptance, or any sense of confidence in self. Then something shakes him. It is uncharacteristic and unexpected. He catches a glimpse of the future he is fashioning for his family. He begins – slowly and sometimes almost imperceptibly – to release his grasp of control and instead seeks a relationship with those whose lives he dominated for so long. Perhaps it is too late, he worries. Perhaps his legacy as a father and a leader of his family is already written in stone. Can that be changed?

Can such a man be given a second chance?

A shrewd businessman makes his company his life. Money & success are the only things that matter. Unethical business practices, stealing ideas, headhunting, poor treatment of employees: none are concerns as long as his own net worth continues to grow. In the process of building his little empire, he has alienated all around him: employees, friends, family, business partners. After a little over a decade, his status as wealthy man cannot be questioned, but the list of people who like or respect him is short. Very short. A few upper-level managers with the courage to be honest open up a series of candid conversations, and he begins to rethink the legacy of selfishness that he has created. Perhaps it is time for a change… Continue Reading…

The Top 5: Things I Learned From Kim Kardashian’s 72 Day Marriage.

Less than a week before Kris Humphries proposed to Kim Kardashian, I wrote a post celebrating my grandparents’ 70th wedding anniversary. Earlier this week the news broke that Kim & Kris could barely make it 70 days with each other. Now, I realize that 70 years is an anomaly these days – that was kind of the point of that earlier post. But 70 days? Something is wrong. Here are The Top 5: Things I Learned From Kim Kardashian’s 72 Day Marriage:
1. Rushing in to marriage wasn’t the problem. Rushing out was. 
By my calculations, Kim spent about 8 weeks and at least 10 million dollars planning her wedding. That is an average cost of $1.25M / week “rushing in.” Given the average cost of marriage counseling if K&K had gone to one counseling session a week for their entire marriage, they would have dished out a whopping $125 / week trying to make the thing work. I made my thoughts on fighting for relationship clear on this post. Continue Reading…
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